In My Shoes


A youth-produced documentary film by and about children of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender parents!

Audience Award for Best Short, San Francisco International LGBT Film Festival 2005


In a time when LGBT families are debated and attacked in the media, courts and Congress, from school houses to state houses across the country, five young people give you a chance to walk in their shoes – to hear their own views on marriage, making change, and what it means to be a family.

About the project:

This 31-minute documentary film was directed by Jen Gilomen and produced by the COLAGE Youth Leadership and Action Program during a 10-month activism training program in San Francisco, CA. In My Shoes is an excellent tool for raising awareness and making the case for same-sex marriage in schools, community centers, churches, legislative offices and more. This film debuted on June 16, 2005 at a world premiere event in San Francisco and at the 2005 Framline Film Festival, where it earned the Audience Award for Best Short.

Quotes from audience members:

  • From a parent: “It’s not just a youth film; it’s a GOOD film.”
  • From a middle school teacher: “This is the most poignant and compelling argument for gay marriage I’ve ever seen!”
  • From a 12-yr old son to his lesbian mom:”Did you hear what that boy [in the film] said? That’s how I feel!”
  • From an 17-year-old boy who has no LGBT family or friends: “I felt like I got to be a part of their families for a little while, to see what it’s like.”
  • From a reform Rabbi: “Wow! That 16-yr-old girl [in the film] just went off on her county supervisor. She’s articulate and she’s got chutzpah!”


Credits:A collaborative project by
COLAGE Youth Leadership & Action Program (YLAP)
& Jennifer GilomenDirected, shot, & edited by
Jennifer GilomenAssistant Directors
COLAGE Youth Leadership & Action Program (YLAP)Produced by
COLAGE Youth Leadership & Action Program (YLAP)
& Meredith Fentonfeatured youth and families
Sarah Gogin, Kevin Gogin and Dan Mcpherson
Alex Morris, Paula Morris and Cory Pohley
Jessica Gutierrez. Prado Gomez, Mariah Sparks and Anthony Gutierrez
Xavier Soto, Kurry Foley, Stephanie Montgomery and Zindzhi
Marina Gatto, Arzu and Ramona Gatto

by Lily Idalia

“Confused Romance”
written and performed by Sarah Gogin

Lily Donavan-Seid
Sarah Schanz-Bortman
Meredith Fenton

members of COLAGE Youth Leadership and Action Program
Abby Lawton
Ariel Bott
Bevan Gerber-Siff
Breauna Dickson
Claire Veeninga
Hannah Veeninga
Jessica Gutierrez
Lily Donavan-Seid
Rachel Bartleman
Sarah Schanz-Bortman
Xavier Soto

school scene participants
Alexander Yip
Jessica Gutierrez
Jessica Van Tuyl
Kyle Shea
Lily Donovan-Seid
Meredith Fenton
Opal Felicity
Sarah Schanz-Bortman
Serena Felicity
Xavier Soto

still photography & graphics
Jennifer Gilomen

4track to digital music transfer
Lauren Tabak

funding for the COLAGE Youth Leadership and Action Program
Bears of San Francisco
Evelyn and Walter Haas Jr. Fund
Horizons Foundation
San Francisco Children and Families Commission/First Five
San Francisco Department of Children Youth and Families
San Francisco Foundation
The Members and Supporters of COLAGE

additional sponsorship of In My Shoes
Bay Area Video Coalition

special thanks to
Beth Teper
Bryan Burgess and the New College Department of Activism and Social Change
Cory Pohley, Alex & Paula Morris
Ember Cook
Jesse Carr
Jessica Dorfman
Jessica Van Tuyl
Kevin & Sarah Gogin & Dan McPherson
Lavender Youth Recreation Project & Information Center (LYRIC)
Prado Gomez, Mariah Sparks, & Jessica & Anthony Gutierrez
Marina, Ramona & Arzu Gatto
Stephanie & Zindzhi Montgomery, Kurry Foley, & Xavier Soto
the go Program at the Richmond Village Beacon
Washington High School

additional funding for COLAGE provided by
Arcus Fund
Bothin Foundation
David Bohnett Foundation
Gill Foundation
Open Society Institute
R. Gwin Follis Foundation
Reva and David Logan Foundation
The members and supporters of COLAGE


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