In My Shoes

In My Shoes 2017-09-27T19:50:07-04:00

A youth-produced documentary film by and about children of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender parents!

Audience Award for Best Short, San Francisco International LGBT Film Festival 2005


In a time when LGBT families are debated and attacked in the media, courts and Congress, from school houses to state houses across the country, five young people give you a chance to walk in their shoes – to hear their own views on marriage, making change, and what it means to be a family.

About the project:

This 31-minute documentary film was directed by Jen Gilomen and produced by the COLAGE Youth Leadership and Action Program during a 10-month activism training program in San Francisco, CA. In My Shoes is an excellent tool for raising awareness and making the case for same-sex marriage in schools, community centers, churches, legislative offices and more. This film debuted on June 16, 2005 at a world premiere event in San Francisco and at the 2005 Frameline Film Festival, where it earned the Audience Award for Best Short.

Quotes from audience members:

  • From a parent: “It’s not just a youth film; it’s a GOOD film.”
  • From a middle school teacher: “This is the most poignant and compelling argument for gay marriage I’ve ever seen!”
  • From a 12-yr old son to his lesbian mom:”Did you hear what that boy [in the film] said? That’s how I feel!”
  • From an 17-year-old boy who has no LGBT family or friends: “I felt like I got to be a part of their families for a little while, to see what it’s like.”
  • From a reform Rabbi: “Wow! That 16-yr-old girl [in the film] just went off on her county supervisor. She’s articulate and she’s got chutzpah!”


  • In My Shoes is an earnest, traditional 30-minute documentary focused on the children of same-sex couples. Told through the eyes and voices of the kids, it turns the political gay-marriage issue into the personal by showing that these are happy, well-adjusted kids being raised by caring adults.’ — The Sacramento Bee
  • “Do It Yourself: New Youth Films brought us the documentary In My Shoes: Stories of Children With LGBT Parents, revealing some incredibly articulate young advocates and future leaders of the LGBT community.” — Diary of a queer film junkie, Sydney Star Observer, July 7, 2005

Credits:A collaborative project by

COLAGE Youth Leadership & Action Program (YLAP)

& Jennifer GilomenDirected, shot, & edited by

Jennifer GilomenAssistant Directors

COLAGE Youth Leadership & Action Program (YLAP)Produced by

COLAGE Youth Leadership & Action Program (YLAP)

& Meredith Fentonfeatured youth and families

Sarah Gogin, Kevin Gogin and Dan Mcpherson

Alex Morris, Paula Morris and Cory Pohley

Jessica Gutierrez. Prado Gomez, Mariah Sparks and Anthony Gutierrez

Xavier Soto, Kurry Foley, Stephanie Montgomery and Zindzhi

Marina Gatto, Arzu and Ramona Gatto


by Lily Idalia

“Confused Romance”

written and performed by Sarah Gogin


Lily Donavan-Seid

Sarah Schanz-Bortman

Meredith Fenton

members of COLAGE Youth Leadership and Action Program

Abby Lawton

Ariel Bott

Bevan Gerber-Siff

Breauna Dickson

Claire Veeninga

Hannah Veeninga

Jessica Gutierrez

Lily Donavan-Seid

Rachel Bartleman

Sarah Schanz-Bortman

Xavier Soto

school scene participants

Alexander Yip

Jessica Gutierrez

Jessica Van Tuyl

Kyle Shea

Lily Donovan-Seid

Meredith Fenton

Opal Felicity

Sarah Schanz-Bortman

Serena Felicity

Xavier Soto

still photography & graphics

Jennifer Gilomen

4track to digital music transfer

Lauren Tabak

funding for the COLAGE Youth Leadership and Action Program

Bears of San Francisco

Evelyn and Walter Haas Jr. Fund

Horizons Foundation

San Francisco Children and Families Commission/First Five

San Francisco Department of Children Youth and Families

San Francisco Foundation

The Members and Supporters of COLAGE

additional sponsorship of In My Shoes

Bay Area Video Coalition

special thanks to

Beth Teper

Bryan Burgess and the New College Department of Activism and Social Change

Cory Pohley, Alex & Paula Morris

Ember Cook

Jesse Carr

Jessica Dorfman

Jessica Van Tuyl

Kevin & Sarah Gogin & Dan McPherson

Lavender Youth Recreation Project & Information Center (LYRIC)

Prado Gomez, Mariah Sparks, & Jessica & Anthony Gutierrez

Marina, Ramona & Arzu Gatto

Stephanie & Zindzhi Montgomery, Kurry Foley, & Xavier Soto

the go Program at the Richmond Village Beacon

Washington High School

additional funding for COLAGE provided by

Arcus Fund

Bothin Foundation

David Bohnett Foundation

Gill Foundation

Open Society Institute

R. Gwin Follis Foundation

Reva and David Logan Foundation

The members and supporters of COLAGE